Maybe writers should dispense with words and just use emojis to express opinions, By Hal M. Brown

 

In today's blog I take a break from pure poltics and write about about linguistics, language, words, and writing.

There was an article about Kari Lake being selected to lead the Voice of America which was shown on the top of the page in HuffPost (above with arrow). It didn't offer any opinion. All it said was the following:

The president-elect named Kari Lake, the failed Arizona Senate and gubernatorial candidate, to be the next director of Voice of America. The media network is funded by the U.S. government and is meant to be an unbiased source of news for people around the planet.

VOA provides news in nearly 50 languages and reaches a weekly audience of more than 350 million people, according to its website.

Lake, Trump said, will “ensure that the American values of Freedom and Liberty are broadcast around the World FAIRLY and ACCURATELY, unlike the lies spread by the Fake News Media.”

Lake is a fierce denier of the 2020 presidential election results and refused to concede her race for Arizona governor in 2022.

The title was preceded by the thinking face emoji. This is the "yellow face with furrowed eyebrows looking upwards with thumb and index finger resting on its chin. It is intended to show a person pondering or deep in thought. Often used to question or scorn something or someone, as if saying Hmm, I don't know about that. Tone varies, including earnest, playful, puzzled, skeptical, and mocking." Reference.

At the most recent count I could find there are 1874 emojis in 10 categories and 100 subcategories. While some are objects, activites, and symbols many convey a range of emotions (see here).  You can find all of the emojis here.

I can see a time when some writers who are tired of putting together words decide simply to report what Trump and his allies are doing and the consequences for the country without offering an opinion. There are enough emojis to do this.

Here's one example:

Meaning of 😤 Face With Steam From Nose Emoji 

The 😤 Face With Steam From Nose emoji is often depicted as a frowning face with closed 👀 Eyesand steam coming out of its 👃 Nose, which typically represents extreme anger (similar to mad bulls in cartoons). This is why its most common meaning is related to 💢 Anger, aggression, and frustration. It is often used to symbolize someone struggling to manage their intense negative emotions.

As anyone who has used them knowsm combining emojis can elaborate on a reaction or what they want to express. For example, follow the steaming nose emoji with this one:

Meaning of 🤯 Exploding Head Emoji 

The 🤯 Exploding Head emoji is a face with the head removed to reveal a 🍄 Mushroom ☁️ Cloud. It's commonly used to express the feeling of being mind-blown after learning or discovering something new. It's okay to have those moments of confusion because it's always 😄 Fun to learn something new. 

If you want to show your confusion towards your new discovery, you can send this emoji along with a ❓ Question Mark emoji. But for a little fun, you can use the 🧠 Brain emoji and the 💣 Bomb emoji instead to show that your latest realization blows your mind. 

It's basically used to show that you don't understand something because someone said too many things.

Many of the articles warning about what Trump plans to do to the country and the world go on and on and on. Word and after word after word, sentence after sentence, paragraph after paragraph. I don't know how many people actually read every word in an article. For that matter I don't know how many people read every word of my blogs and I usually intersperse text with illustrations.

How many people who need to be enlightened about Trump actually read books like these six from 2020 (reviewed here)?

Maybe Kash Patel had a good idea reducing his nasty ideas to three books for children. He may grasp that everything has to be dumbed down to reach the people who need to be reached in Trumpworld.

I expect that lovers of language lament the prospect of the literary landscape being overrun with emjois replacing words and phrases expressing nuanced and complex ideas and emotions previously expressed with, well, you remember them, words.

I haven't succumbed to the temptation to use emojis, but in the blogs and substacks I read I haven't found any that use illustrations the way I do.

I am seeing more artwork, some created by AI, used as primary illustrations. In fact, back to Kash Patel's book, the illustration in Alexandra Petri's column (here, subscription) was animated.

This Washington Post column is also animated:

My point is that in order to get some people to pay attention and keep to them engaged you have to use various tricks. The so-called "gray lady" New York Times didn't even use color photographs until 1997.

Before that a typical front page looked like this:

Occassionally they would include illustrations:

Here's today's front page.

This is The New York Times. How many Trump voters even read The New York Times? If they read any print newspaper at all if they are New Yorkers they probably read Rupert Murdoch's New York Post.

Trump got away with convincing people that speaking gibberish was something he called the weave and that it was brilliant. Trump dumbed everything down and managed to convince people he was someone he clearly wasn't. One Trump voter told The New York Times he thought Trump was compassionate and a believer in Christ. I wrote about this yesterday.

According to this article you can use emojis on Truth Social but I don't know if Trump has ever used them or, for that matter, if he even knows how to use them. I looked at about 20 of his Truth Social posts and didn't see any emojis. Along with images and GIFs they are very easy to use on X and BlueSky.

It is no surprise that the role of emojis and how they effect language is the subject of learned discussion. For example in "Emoticons and symbols aren’t ruining language – they’re revolutionizing it" from The Conversation back in 2015.

I am one of many who have said that the Democrats are lousy at reaching low information and uncritical voters. I'm not really saying we should replace words with emojis but we damn well better learn how to get our message across to people who may be amenable to hearing our side of the story.

Recent blogs: A decidely unempathic fantasy about what I wish for Trump voters, addressing Hegseth and his toxic masculinity, another about Trump and MAGA toxic masculinity, and a sign Trump may have dementia.

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Am I unempathic in wishing the worst for some Trump voters? By Hal M. Brown

There's a part of me that I don't really know what to make of when it comes to wishing the absolute worst for the country during the next four years so people who voted for Trump suffer.  In order for this to happen lots of good people will also suffer. In fact it is the good people will initially suffer more than the typical Trump voter. I don't want to see people suffer, not just know they are suffering, but literally see them suffering on television. But for the country to turn around this has to happen.

I offer for your consideration my Trump Tesla analogy.

I know that the people who thought Trump would usher in a a world of bluebirds and happiness for them personally are going to at some time be poleaxed with the realization that they bought the lemon of all lemon cars from a slick psychopathic salesman. The Trump car, let's say for obvious reasons that it is a Tesla, looked great in the showroom. Maybe they took it on a test drive and were impressed with the head snapping acceleration (one model will do 0-60 in less than two seconds and has a top speed of 200) and all electonic gewgaws. 

Perhaps in time these buyers will eventually discover the transmission had a nasty habit of freezing up. They might discover the hard way that there were faulty airbags, that the navigation system didn't know north from south, that the air conditioning is faulty, and there's a glitch in the automatic locking system that may engage trapping them inside. Back to the consequences of this at the end of the blog.

Here's what led me to think of this:

I read an article in yesterday's NY Times, These 14 Voters Think Trump Has One Mandate Above All, and It’s Not About the Economy. It is by Patrick Healy, Margie Omero and Adrian J. Rivera. Mr. Healy is the deputy Opinion editor. Ms. Omero is a pollster. Mr. Rivera is an editorial assistant in Opinion.

I was stuck by some the impressions which these people who voted for Trump had of him. 

For example these three were at the start of the article:

I can see the person why one person said "change" in response to the question "What’s one word that describes how you see Donald Trump today?" However common sense and patriotism, give me a break. Where are the heads of these people if not in the sand or some other place where the sun doesn't shine?

One word in the following got to me. Can you guess what it was?

If you guessed "compassion" (which I assume you did) you are right. This comes from a 62 year old Black truck driver. 

He expanded on this as follows answering the question about why he voted for Trump.

I served in the military. I’ve been a police officer. We spend lots of money in countries that most people couldn’t find on a map, and we have people that are starving in the streets of L.A. Trump believes in this country. He believes in Christ. He loves this country.

Of all the people I would like to talk to of the 14 people interviewed for this article it is Kenneth. I want to understand what characteristics he sees in Donald Trump that he would see as demonstrating that he is a compassionate person. I would remind him that the definition of compassion is sympathetic pity and concern for the sufferings or misfortunes of others. I want to ask him what makes him think Trump believes in Christ.

This was Kenneth's view on supporting Ukraine: "I don’t think we should be focusing on a country that has nuclear warheads, as Russia does, in the name of defending Ukraine." Where, I wonder, is his compassion for the people of Ukraine? How is this Christian?

Eight of the 14 interviewed said they supported mass deportations of undocumented immigrants. Kenneth was one of them. Again, I wonder about his feelings of compassion.

He was asked specifically about Jan. 6th and Trump pardons. He seemed to make more sense regarding this.

I’m kind of in the middle. The ones that were actually lawbreakers shouldn’t be pardoned. When they went into the Capitol building, some were just there, peaceful protesters. Maybe those people can get some type of pardon or commute their sentences. They shouldn’t be serving 15 years for just walking into the Capitol building. The ones that were violent and actually went in and took over in the Capitol building, they shouldn’t be pardoned.

Of course nobody was sentenced to 15 years for just walking into the Capitol.

I hope that the authors of this article continue to interview their subjects on a regular basis. I want to see what they say when they see their optimism is shattered into pieces.

Fasten you seatbelts, here's my Trump Tesla vacation analogy:

I want to see Trump supports take off for a vacation on a sweltering hot day in their shiny Trump car. I want them to have the transmission give out suddenly while they are driving on the crowded expressway to a destination in the opposite direction that they wanted to go because of faulty navigation, have the air conditioning stop, and the locks on the car engage trapping them inside barely on the shoulder while other cars are speeding by. Let's add that their blinker lights aren't working and a torrential rainstorm has just begun... and to add insult to the fears of serious injury the radio is stuck on high volume on a station that plays nothing but Chinese opera.

I like to think I am a kind and empathetic person, albeit with some lapses which I later regret. These fantasies don't sit well with me. It bothers me that I enjoyed thinking about my Trump Tesla breaking down in traffic analogy and that I enjoyed writing about it. 

The pragmatic part of me knows that for the country to change and for compassionate democracy and a moral society to be embraced by enough voters to swing the next two elections to Democrats things have to go very very badly for those who voted for Trump. The Trump promised shiny new Trump Tesla has to be expossed as a junker. Things not only have to go so badly that the Democrats take control of Congress in two years and the presidency in four, but enough of the conservatives on the Supreme Court also must realize what evil they have enabled and the court has to take steps to put America back on course.

There... for now I got this out of my system.

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For some MAGA manly men, Hegseth's sexual assault and drinking charges are badges of honor worthy of a medal, by Hal M. Brown

Click above to enlarge images of medal Hegseth might have been awarded.

 

Republicans Look Past Sexual Assault, Alcohol Allegations Against Pete Hegseth

Reading this led me to react the with title of this blog and to spend some time trying to make medals to illustrate it (above) to show the kind soldiers in a sick toxically masculine military might be awarded for sexual assault and drunken behavior. Trump and card carrying members of the phallocentric manosphere encountering soldiers sporting these medals would shake their hands and say "thank you for your service."

Popular culture has glamorized the hard drinking womanizing man whether a he's a soldier, detective, or some other heroic figure who solves the crime and catches the bad guys or makes a ton of money.

This is all related to Trump's phallocentric beliefs. I wrote about this here: Trump is a delusional unhinged sadist living in a phallocentric manosphere.

I have no way of knowing for sure what rocks Pete Hegseth's boat, if you'll excuse an expression more appropriate for a former Navy man. My impression of him is that he is like many men who consider heavy drinking to be a sign of masculinity. I also think he believes that women exist to satisfy the needs of men. I don't know whether he thinks their role in life is to wait on men hand and foot or gratifying male sexual desires.

How he fits into the concept of toxic masculinity remains to be seen. Wikipedia's definition of toxic masculinity begins:

The concept of toxic masculinity is used in academic and media discussions to refer to those aspects of hegemonic masculinity that are socially destructive, such as misogyny, homophobia, and violent domination. These traits are considered "toxic" due in part to their promotion of violence, including sexual assault and domestic violence. Socialization of boys sometimes also normalizes violence, such as in the saying "boys will be boys" about bullying and aggression.

I wonder what he'd say if someone asked him what he thought about the photos related to his hero below:

What does it say about someone (usually a man, Marjorie Taylor Greene is an exception) who finds excuses to show off their muscles?

For that matter, what does it say about RFK Jr.? Of course he's not in line to become Secretary of Defense.

Trump isn't about to pull a Hulk Hogan and rip off his shirt on TV. I am sure he wishes he could. He has to content himself with issuing AI created images of himself and seeing people waving flags with him as a Rambo character on them. He has to pleasure himself with being able to inflict his toxic masculinity on the nation. 

It isn't just muscles, or even gender, that makes someone toxically masculine. It is a set of beliefs that might makes right. It is an abiding desire to exercise authority over others. We can speculate that it is rooted in feelings of inferiority which began in childhood, but this hardly maters when these people get power. 

Kash Patel and Steven Miller, just for two examples, aren't muscle bound hunks. Women like Pam Bondi and Linda McMahon may have many characteristics of toxically masculine men. At its worst toxic masculinity can include a sadistic personality. This is when cruelty, inflicting pain on enemies, becomes the point.

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Drill, baby, drill: Three words that may show Trump isn't mentally all there. By Hal M. Brown, MSW

In Trump ‘s “Meet the Press” interview with Kristen Welker, not only did Trump demontrate a callous disregard for the feelings of those he promised to deport (see my blog about toxic masculinty from yesterday) he uttered three words that were so unrelated to what he was talking about that at the least I would describe them as a mental glitch. This is the sort of odd juxapostion of unrelated thoughts he has called “the weave” which he brags that linguists said it was brilliant. It is has also been suggested this is an indication of his having early dementia. 

This is the exchange:

KRISTEN WELKER:

So you think Liz Cheney should go to jail?

PRESIDENT-ELECT DONALD TRUMP:

For what they did — 

KRISTEN WELKER:

Everyone on the committee you think — 

PRESIDENT-ELECT DONALD TRUMP:

I think everybody — 

KRISTEN WELKER:

– should go to jail?

PRESIDENT-ELECT DONALD TRUMP:

– on the — anybody that voted in favor — 

KRISTEN WELKER:

Are you going to direct your FBI director — 

PRESIDENT-ELECT DONALD TRUMP:

No.

KRISTEN WELKER:

– and your attorney general to send them to jail?

PRESIDENT-ELECT DONALD TRUMP:

No, not at all. I think that they’ll have to look at that, but I’m not going to — I’m going to focus on drill, baby, drill.

KRISTEN WELKER:

When you say that, it carries weight though. You know, you’ve tapped these people to lead the Justice Department and FBI — 

As you see above Welker ignores this and brings him back to the subject. You can read this in the entire transcript here.

While it is true that “drill, baby, drill” has been a line he has used in his rallies it makes no sense for him to say that this will be the focus of the first day he’s in office. At the least, this is an unserious response when a thoughtful person would have said that he’d have other far more important things to deal with that whether certain people should be going to jail. If he wanted to keep the topic on the matter of jail, he could have said it was far more important to free the people he calls patriots who are incarcerted.

At the worst this may be an indication of early dementia. I can’t imagine that as Trump thinks ahead to what he will do 

The point is that “drill, baby, drill” not only doen’t have anything to do with the issue being discussed, high gas prices aren’t even currently in the news. It wasn’t a major issue in the final months of the campaign. In fact gas prices are down on average for the US as a whole, with the price of gas falling in 38 out of the 51 states over the last week.

Trump clearly want to change the subject. I think this is because he knew he was lying through his teeth and had every intention of making sure he wreaked vengeance on as many of his enemies as possible. He wants to make them suffer the indignity he suffered having to sit through the E. Jean Carroll trial and much worse. That trial was a nothing burger to him because even though the basic charge was sexual assault it was a civil trial. 

It isn’t only his saying “drill, baby, drill” that lead me to question Trump’s mental condition. Consider these two rambling responses to Welker:

KRISTEN WELKER:

Let me ask you about something you’ve referenced a couple of times in this interview. I asked you last time we sat down for an interview if you were going to pardon yourself. You said no. But now that President Biden has pardoned his son Hunter, are you reconsidering? Might you pardon yourself?

PRESIDENT-ELECT DONALD TRUMP:

I didn’t do anything wrong. I — I was given the option, and the lawyers told me — a very specific lawyer. I don’t have to go into who, but very high up in the — in the administration, said, “Sir, if you pardon yourself, you’re going to look guilty, and you did nothing wrong.” Oh, I had that option. I could’ve saved myself a lot of legal fees. But it turned out that I was right. Look at what’s gone on. Everything’s being dropped. I still have a — Fani Willis, Fani, a total hoax. That’s a total hoax. Every — it’s all being dropped. It’s all been discredited. It’s been dropped. There are those people that say, and this would be the first time in history, that all of those fake indictments, they were — they were going after a political opponent. There are those that say that I actually did better in the election because of it. Now, that would be a first. I think you would agree because normally, that’s like, you go back to the microphones, you say, “I’m leaving right now. I will leave office. I’m going back to my family and I will fight for my name.” Well, I had to fight for my name in public because I didn’t leave office. But no, I didn’t want a pardon. And I didn’t want to pardon myself. I had the option to pardon myself.

Here’s another one:

KRISTEN WELKER:

Let me ask you about some of this new reporting. NBC News is reporting that President Biden is considering giving preemptive pardons to the likes of Liz Cheney, Adam Schiff, and Anthony Fauci. If President Biden doesn’t issue those pardons, do you think they are going to wish that he had? Are they going to be — 

PRESIDENT-ELECT DONALD TRUMP:

I don’t know.

KRISTEN WELKER:

– pursued?

PRESIDENT-ELECT DONALD TRUMP:

I can tell you this about Cheney. And she’s a so-called Republican. I think she hurt the Democrats terribly. When I saw that Kamala put Cheney out on the campaign trail, I said, “That’s the end of Kamala.” I really did. I thought it was a terrible move, especially if you’re a Democrat. But Cheney did something that’s inexcusable, along with Thompson and the people on the un-select committee of political thugs and, you know, creeps. So the unselect committee went through a year and a half of testimony. Wait. They deleted and destroyed all evidence of — that they found. You know why? Because Nancy Pelosi was guilty. Nancy Pelosi turned down 10,000 troops. You wouldn’t have had a J6 because other people were guilty. The people that said that I attacked two Secret Service agents in a car, I grabbed one around the neck. I was then rebuffed and I grabbed the other one. These are two of the toughest men anywhere on the planet. And they happen to slightly younger than me. You know, just a little bit. Let me just tell you. They testified. They said it was total bullshit. And all of this stuff came out. People lied so badly. Now, listen, this was a committee, a big deal. They lied. And what did they do? They deleted and destroyed a whole year and a half worth of testimony. Do you know that I can’t get — I think those people committed a major crime.

For a period of time I was one of many mental health professionals who went public saying that there was good evidence Trump had early dementia. My colleague in the Duty to Warn movement, it's founder Dr. John D. Gartner was interviewed by Chauncey DeVega in Salon in March noting the signs of "accelerating dementia."

I was the clincial social worker referred to and quoted in this Chauncey DeVega column in Salon:

I also wrote: I’m not the only mental health professional who says that Trump needs a rigorous neuropsychiatric evaluation to rule out a cognitive illness and The debate may help determine if Trump has dementia and it may also demonstrate whether or not he has mania.

Here's a Google search with links to many more articles about this.

Then I began to think that maybe, as those who defended him said, what I saw as symptoms were just Trump being Trump. I was trying not to allow my opinion of Trump as a dangerous demagogue to influence my clinical assessment. As a psychotherapist I am qualified to opine on psychopathology, but I am not a neurologist with expertise in teasing out signs of early dementia from other behaviors.

Now I am not so sure. Maybe speaking in “the weave” isn’t as brilliant as Trump says it is. It could be a sign of dementia after all.

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If only the entire country could divorce itself from a toxically masculine regime, By Hal M. Brown. MSW

 

I came across this in today's NY Times (subscription):

You can watch the video clip shown above here.

In the Times article the following is revealed:

Mr. Kennedy added that as part of an “anti-aging protocol from my doctor,” he also receives testosterone replacement therapy. “But I don’t take any steroids,” he said. “I don’t take any anabolic steroids or anything like that.”

The lines between supplementation with T.R.T. — a common practice among older men — and steroid use can get blurry for some because they are dealing with the same hormone in vastly different quantities. 

This kind of display of musculature is just one more representation of the toxic masculinity that has taken over the political scene thanks to Donald Trump. He obviously isn't about to allow himself to be photographed shirtless. He's convinced his cult that he really looks like the AI created superhero images he promotes.

We also had Elon Musk and Mark Zuckerberg making noise about fighting each other in a cage match. Jumping juvenile Jehoshaphat, these are grown men!  See: Billionaire brawl: all the latest on the cage match between Elon Musk and Mark Zuckerberg. The cage match was cancelled (read article) with each man blaming the other. I expect on pay per view people would have tuned in.

More about Elon because, well, just because he's at least for now one of the most influential Trump whisperers. He made the best of a bad situation in 2022 and was able to joke about it saying publication of bathing suit photos were a good excuse to go to the gym (see article) when photos of him shirtless went viral.

Of course we had Trump beating Vince McMahon in a fake wrestling match and shaving his head. I won't subject you to photos of that. I also won't bother publishing photos of a horseback riding shirtless Putin.

Another toxic male Trumper who I doubt you pay any attention to, though you've heard his name, is Alex Jones who does the InfoWars website. He also likes to put shirtless photos of himself showing his muscles online.

Then we had Hulk Hogan literally ripping his shirt off to show off his muscles during Trump's final rally. Again, I won't subject you to including them in this blog.

I can see a woman doing this at a Trump rally. In fact, a woman was escorted out of a Trump rally after flashing her breasts in the stand. 

It is hard to image that we would have a president who would do what he did in these two photos:

Can you imagine a self-respecting woman doing the same thing?

Wikipedia's definition of toxic masculinity begins:

The concept of toxic masculinity is used in academic and media discussions to refer to those aspects of hegemonic masculinity that are socially destructive, such as misogyny, homophobia, and violent domination. These traits are considered "toxic" due in part to their promotion of violence, including sexual assault and domestic violence. Socialization of boys sometimes also normalizes violence, such as in the saying "boys will be boys" about bullying and aggression.

Wikipedia does not have a page for toxic femininity,  but it is a concept in psychology and social science. It has a very different meaning than toxic masculinity. Consider:

Toxic femininity refers to the adherence to the gender binary in order to receive conditional value in patriarchal societies. It is a concept that restricts women to being cooperative, passive, sexually submissive, gentle, and deriving their value from physical beauty while being pleasing to men. From VeryWell Mind.

Toxically masculine men, whether they have rippling muscles or, like Trump and Steven Miller (left), aren't muscle men, still have toxic male beliefs. For example, they tend to lack empathy and are prone to bullying. They often are sadistic and enjoy inflicting pain or discomfort on their enemies. In the past few days we saw Trump's total lack of empathy when talking about deporting entire families including children when only one or both parents were here illegally. Without weight lifting hardened biceps this is Trump flexing his muscles as saying "look how tough I am." 

This is Trump interviewed by Kristin Welker on Meet the Press (watch video here) talking about eliminating birthright citizenship and deporting entire families:

PRES.-ELECT DONALD TRUMP: Well, that way you keep the – well, I don't want to be breaking up families, so the only way you don't break up the family is you keep them together and you have to send them all back.

KRISTEN WELKER: Even kids who are here legally?

PRES.-ELECT DONALD TRUMP: Well, what you've got to do if they want to stay with their father – look, we have to have rules and regulations. You can always find something out like, you know, "This doesn't work. That doesn't work." I'll tell you what's going to be horrible, when we take a wonderful young woman who's with a criminal. And they show the woman, and she could stay by the law, but they show the woman being taken out. Or they want her out and your cameras are focused on her as she's crying as she's being taken out of our country. And then the public turns against us. But we have to do our job. And you have to have a series of standards and a series of laws. And in the end, look, our country is a mess.

This is just plain sadistically sick. How anyone with any sense of morality can read or watch Trump saying this thinks he is a decent person staggers me. How someone who says "Trump is a Christian" can utter these words with a straight face is a sad sign of the times.

In 2021 Adam Sewer of The Atlantic wrote a book about the Trump administration titled "The Cruelty Is the Point: The Past, Present, and Future of Trump's America" with the first part of the title becoming a frequently used phrase to describe Trump's inhumane policies.

Cruelty is part and parcel of toxic masculinity. Trump and his ilk thrive on knowing people are afraid of them. This is not just because of the power they have over their lives, but potential victims know that they take satisfaction in being cruel.

Numerous articles like 7 Subtle Signs of Toxic Masculinity in a Relationship give advice to people who have men like this as their partners. If only it could be simple for an entire half of a democracy loving country to get a divorce. It could go into couples therapy to get help to gain the insight and self-esteem to get a divorce from a toxic partner. It is as if half the country has been forced into a marriage with a toxic, and abusive, partner. 

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