Updated: The missing Melania mystery: Money grubbing monkey or Mona Lisa?

  

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By Hal Brown

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PR Experts Are Advising Melania Trump ‘To Keep Her Distance’ & Plan Ahead To Do This Extra Step Amid Donald’s Legal Woes - YaHoo Entertainment

Actually, it’s getting so intense that PR experts are saying Donald’s wife Melania Trump would not only “keep her distance,” but also “plan an escape route.”

PR expert Jane Owen recently told the Mirror she thinks Melania should do both of these measures before the legal ramifications get worse. “If I was Melanie’s friend or her publicist I would be advising her to keep her distance as well. The easiest thing to justify is the lack of something,” she said. “She can say she was with her child, doing charity work, busy with literally anything and no one can fault her for it. Donald himself is not going to draw attention to her absence as a negative thing. So it’s the easiest option.”

I don't see Melania as a monster or a monkey, the image above is meant to depict someone who could be a grifter, living in the major monkey's mansion as his wife, playing the role or being the role of the loving, loyal steadfast spouse. He may have given her a case of monkey see monkey do. She also could be an enigmatic Mona Lisa marching to her munificent and maternal heartbeat.

Melania is the mystery woman in more ways than one. 

Accounts of what she's really like are contradictory. Is she an egotistical grifter like hubby? Is she a humble person more comfortable out of the spotlight  who is mostly concerned with the well-being of her son?  If you have a subscrption read The Very Private Life of Melania Trump here.

This is how the very long article concludes:

While first ladies often capitalize on the attendant fame, Mrs. Trump’s moneymaking venture is different from those of her predecessors, said Kate Andersen Brower, the author of “First Women: The Grace and Power of America’s Modern First Ladies.”

Michelle Obama was reportedly paid more than $60 million in a joint book deal with her husband, as well as commanding hundreds of thousands of dollars for speeches and signing a lucrative production deal with Netflix. Laura Bush and Hillary Clinton also sold their memoirs for millions. Their memoirs and paid speeches required the former first ladies to share some details about themselves, their views and their lives in the White House.

By simply selling images, Mrs. Trump reveals nothing.

That’s exactly how she likes it, Ms. Brower said.

“She’s the most obviously unknowable first lady,” she said of Mrs. Trump’s public persona. “There’s something radical about it. First ladies are expected to want to please people and I’m not sure she really cares.”

Here's another excerpt about her husband running for reelection:

“He has my support, and we look forward to restoring hope for the future and leading America with love and strength...”

Does she really think Donald Trump is capable of leading America with love?

For that matter, doe she really truly love her husband? Does she know what love is?

I've done a lot of marriage counseling in my 40 years as a therapist, and worked with uncountable women who were married to emotional abusive men, some of whom had extreme nacssistic personality disorder and were incable of empathy. Without empathy for your partner I don't see how it's possible to love them. A couple can also have a transactional marriage without one being emotionally withholding  or emotionally abusive. I don't consider either of these to be a loving marriage.

Women can love abusive husbands because they have very low self-esteem and don't feel or believe they can do any better. Some feel they don't deserve more. It is all, to state the obvious, very complicated.

We just don't know whether Melania loves her husband and if she does feel love for him what she gets out of the marriage.

I find it telling about her personality that she auctioned a drawing  her wearing one of her hats with a portion going to charity. Who does that?

See pre-auction article and results of auction.

Bascially this is a hohum-who-cares subject, though I cared enough to write it. As someone who was a therapist for my entire career I find her and their marriage interesting.

Her absense at Trump campaign events or in court should he testify in person will be noted but while her pressense might help his burnish image especially with women who are already in his cult her absense won't mean a hill of beans.

As first lady she will be a curiosity as one who did basically nothing of significance except wear the "I don't care" jacket. She certainly would not be number 11 on this list of the 10 most influential Fist Ladies. If anyone will make number 11 on the list it will be Dr. Jill Biden.